This post is about love. Love is obviously such a complex topic that one blog post is not enough.
We search our entire lives to experience love and so many songs have been written about it. When we experience it, we feel like we are flying high in the sky. When we lose it, we feel like we are falling into a pit.
One important question to ask is “How can we tell love from lust”?
This is an incredibly hard question answer since it differs in every life scenario.
Sometimes friends are just being kind for the sake of being kind. Other times, it is love if they are suffering to make our lives better.
Since humans naturally sin, it’s very difficult to discern lust and love. Usually though lust ends up with us feeling guilty. Lust is selfish and deceptive. However, human nature is to act out of self-interest. So human love is not perfect. At times I wonder if the best we can offer each other is lust and affection.
We love because we are corrupt. We know our own fears and mistakes. So idealistically there’s no love so right like love based on respect and admiration. This love is when you admire the virtues of someone else since we may want to forget our own struggles in life.
Losing a friend is very very very hard. One of the hardest experiences is to grieve the loss of former friends still alive. I’ve had friendships fade away and it’s so bittersweet.
One day a woman came the philosopher Seneca crying over the loss of her child. We call a women who lost a child a widow. We call a child who lost their parents an orphan. However, there is still no word to describe a woman who lost her baby.
When the woman told the bad news to Seneca, both of them started crying. Seneca replied “We cry over parts of life. But doesn’t the whole of life call for our tears?”
As a college student, I know my friends and young people in general have such a hard time dealing with love, dating, and their crushes. They have to deal with the superficial hook-up culture, sexual urges, and all the online instagram pictures of what is suppose to be the ideal male and female body.
When dealing with a crush, it’s usually our imagination that causes us to fall in love. Since the crush is not always near us, we will resort to our imaginations to deal with missing them.
True love would ideally require sacrifice. In this case, love is more than a fleeting feeling. If it’s love, both people will do what is necessary to make the relationship work. If you’re important, the person will find a way to keep the friendship going. If not, he or she may need to set the friendship aside because of other more pressing matters in their lives.
Dating and young love is a love of “I love you when I see you” but I don’t know if I can commit to you. It’s a love of two sailboats passing by the waves in a stormy night.
There are so many types of love such as:
- love towards a role model or teacher
- love towards classmates and co-workers
- love towards best friends
- love towards a crush
- love towards God
- love towards ourselves
Love cannot be logically deduced. It’s not something Sherlock Holmes can rationally think about. It’s like the following scene from Winnie the Pooh:
My friend Joe says: Love is a powerful and beautiful word, but it has come to represent our desires and appetites (“I love Netflix,” “I love cheese pizza”).
Love is when we understand somebody by giving them our true presence. When we understand somebody, it’s difficult not to love them since we take the time to listen to and learn about them.
Love is wholesome, and it gives unconditionally and without expecting anything back. Love is deep friendship.
Here are some famous quotes on love:
- Love is patient, kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.
- Trust your heart. You know it’s a strong one. Guard your heart for out of it comes everything else.
- “Divorce and relationships are like fishing. You’ll tell the most ridiculous stories about “The one that got away”. – TJ Paris
Since we live quiet lives and are at times lonely, it’s important to try to talk to ourselves like we would to someone we love. So wait and do not awaken love until it so desires.